Creating Ease with the Subject of Death

Dr Dain Heer, co-founder of Access Consciousness, responds to Sanghita Singh’s questions on death, grief, and loss in this revelation of an interview.

I have long known of Dr Dain Heer’s ability to create joy, ease and glory in people’s lives. That’s, after all, the manifesto on which Access Consciousness works. I am also aware of his own transformational journey from once contemplating suicide to being one of the most followed life coaches in America and changing people’s lives in a way that offers them greater opportunities in every aspect of living. I have known of people who have personally benefitted and healed from severe trauma of the mind and body with his guidance. But what I didn’t know is that Dr Heer’s most magical ability is his ease in helping people deal with death, loss and grief. His approach lies in offering a point of view that alters one’s perspective on death — a subject most dreaded and rarely discussed.

Last year, after receiving the news of my father’s sudden demise, as I made an arduous road journey from a remote town in Madhya Pradesh to Patna, my hometown and the capital of Bihar, I knew receiving a message from Dr Heer on my phone was no co-incidence! He was finally responding to the interview questions I had sent to him a few weeks earlier. My mind was pre-occupied with my loss and maternal duties as I attended to my seven-month-old son on what seemed to be the longest car ride of my life, but I immediately found a distraction as Dr Heer kept sending me one voice note after another on the various questions I had posed earlier.

Amid the torrent of wisdom he gave me through the voice notes, I finally mustered up the courage to let him know about my loss. “Remember, death does not have to be traumatic,” he wrote back. For a moment, I was jolted out of my numbness! This was an alien concept for me. Death and trauma were synonymous in my mindscape. But what he was saying made sense. Why couldn’t we look at death from another lens? I held on to those words and he assured me, “Don’t worry, I have your back.”

In all honesty, I really felt as though he did. For I was finally living through what I had feared would come to pass all my life. But Dr Heer’s words embraced me and held me together at this time in which I could’ve easily collapsed. I shared his perspective with my family, and they agreed with his point of view. We surrendered to our new knowledge that death was not a traumatic occurrence but just an onward journey. My mother, two sisters and I were able to give my father a beautiful farewell, bidding him adieu with our hearts full of love and courage. I know we made our father proud—and I have Dr Heer to thank for it. 

The sense of peace and stability I experienced in the face of death is why I wanted to share his perspective on death with a wide readership. I feel it is an important perspective to have at a time when many have experienced deep personal losses. It’s a subject Dr Heer has rarely spoken of in the public space, but I believe that everyone needs to hear about it for we will all face death in one way or the other someday. Why not face that devastating grief with ease in our minds and bodies?

I sent him a few questions earlier and got some remarkable responses to all those baffling questions about death we’ve always had but never dared to ask.

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Dr Dain Heer’s interview is available on The Positive Podcast